Until now, there is an opinion that there are negative and positive emotions. Joy, tenderness, happiness are positive. Anger, fear, jealousy, doubts are negative. This is not true. Any of our feelings have the right to exist, any of our feelings are of great importance.
What can our “negative” feelings say?
Fear can say that you need to stop and conduct an “audit” of your own resources: how I feel now, what is happening to me, why I am scared.
Resentment may indicate that some part of me was left without attention, and it is vital for her.
Sadness can communicate that I have lost something important and valuable, and this needs to be experienced.
Jealousy is a reminder that something is wrong with my self-esteem and confidence.
Doubts allow me to slow down and soberly assess the situation: should I throw myself into the pool with my head or should I think a little more about what was planned ( by the way, I’m one of those who constantly doubt, but at the same time I found a way out for myself: “squint your eyes and do it,” - this is a good way to overcome endless doubts )
Desperation can signal that your life resources are low and it's time to recharge before moving on.
Disappointment suggests that there was a meeting with reality, illusions crumbled into dust, but you can also live with this.
Guilt may hint that either some of my actions were not very good (and then you need to analyze them, learn from experience and move on), or for some reason I grab someone else's fault, and it's time to stop doing it.
Shame points to parts of me that I am unable or unwilling to accept.
Pain shows that I am alive and able to feel and grieve.
So in fact there are no "negative" feelings. There are just feelings - some more pleasant, some less, but they are all part of us, and they all have the right to exist.
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